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terbanglah's posts with tag: life lessons
 Have you ever felt this kind of phenomena; whereas some of your trusted people changed? Or have you ever realized why people got separated after small incidents? Or perhaps, just over the ever passing time?
Been there done that. It's perfectly normal, my friends. You don’t worry and just be happy. Sometimes, somewhere, someone crossed one's path with us. To colorize our life, to give the life a bit meaning. Be it positively or, sadly, negatively. There’s nothing we could do about it. Everything has its own season
Everything has its own reasons. It doesn’t matter. It’s just the way it is. What would be matter the most is how you could make the most of it, and treat it as your step stone to your next phase; instead of your pain and sorrow. (because) Nothing is coincidental in this world.
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Photo © by TLT
taken on 2006 Dec 31,
somewhere near the new year
Disclaimer
Posted on Tue, Apr 29, 2008 - 21.27 wib
Someone expressed her objection against the so called originality of this article. She pointed out where did I got the inspiration, i.e. here. Noted. That link inspired me, alright, but I still believe that either both of us just talk the same lingo. Anyway, I put the link here, so those who don't buy it could be (fully) satisfied. And I thank the writer featured on the link for the inspiration, and also those who came up with this.
 Concluded after we learned 'interesting' (to not to call it as 'savvy') financial management methods in several Harvard business cases. The objective: project valuations and decision making. And only after a long and painful way, cruising through countless syndicated discussions, fighting over our argumentations against another, we come to one naked fact.
At the end, it is our judgment that matters the most. (and the say that never judge a book from its cover, ha! Tell me about that!)
EnEMBA Sampoerna ITB class,
Saturday, Feb 23, 2008,
12:47 wib
PS:
Right before having our lunch break, the lecture informed us that it's only an introductory case, d'ohh!
PS.PS:
And, oh, btw, that’s the brand new Asus Eee PC that most people talked about. Pretty small and gorgeous, isn’t she? :-)
Photo
was courtesy of TLT, taken earlier today in class on one of that countless discussions between fellow classmate. By the time this blog is uploaded, the class is still in progress (saturday class held between 8 am - 6 pm (10 hs).
The past often forgotten
Is the way we traveled today
And the future we are looking up to.
It is a photo album of our very own. Never to be cherished,
Never to be reminded,
Never to be abandoned,
Never to be hold on to. It is something that shaped the way we are today.
It is everything we really are.
Today.
....... Happy New Year.
© terbanglah lebih tinggi
Jakarta, Wed, Dec 26, 2007.
PS:
will be sent as my new year wish sms to few
all rights reserved.
whatever things whoever those whenever there were, dreams and realities admit simple hope yet merely existence, to the happiness retrieved from our sorrow comes the forgiveness; to clean the soul, to refresh the mind, to greet the heart. Happy holidays, wish you enough, and always.. © terbanglah lebih tinggi Oct 13, 2007
The encryption above was instantly created, just few hours before the 1st Ied al Fitr takbir joyously pronounced through thousands of mosque’s loudspeakers and from millions of my fellow Jakartans' voices, as my Lebaran wishful sms greetings.
It was sent to family, friends, relatives, colleagues, bosses and secretaries, helpers and drivers, classmate and the faculty, government officers (i.e. my working partners) or simply those office colleagues, Moslems and non Moslems, those whose celebrate it or those who does not (be it formatively or normatively) – you named it.
Have you received it? I tend to send this kind of greetings to those another life who has touched my life in some ways or another during the past year(s), and vice versa.
Previously posted on greeting cards personally made on my own for its creative look and personal attention aspects reasons, later on by adopting the sms technology for its speed and simplicity purposes. This time was not an exception either; sent it in hundreds, did not really know its exact number; nearly to 500 persons, if I’m not mistaken.
All were sent with the same tone; none was differentiated between one another. Just a bold wish, and that’s all. For this is a bless not just for some, but also for the whole. A bless for all human being, a bless for the whole universe. Not just for those dear and/or close ones, but also to, err.. not that dear ones, about one or two of them to be more precisely, ahaha..
Yet sometimes I wonder whether I should send this kind of greetings (by sms means) to some of the the recipients. Should it be proper enough? Should it be necessary? Won’t they feel offended?
Sure, my non-Moslems best friends, since they understand what my religious life tendency is, won’t be hesitated for not just to receive the greeting, but also to return it with their warmest kindhearted. Some of them even went further by greet me first from the bottom of their heart. Sure most of the bulks, Moslems or non-Moslems, also know my interest to write, thus they will accept it as the way it is; an original piece of mine delivered through the air. Sure all of them whose has been already interacting with also know my passion to do something NOT incompliance with what the commoners do, and sometimes simply because I just can’t stand to go with the flow (*wink!). Sure, for this is a season of love, they will understand and forgive everything - even for some naïve acts performed.
Yet I do wonder whether it is appropriate enough to be sent to some of those brass, or for those whose never be close but formally enough, or, for the most concerned part of it, bleed me bad enough just to make me know that I’m alive**
I have fully alerted when scrolled down my mobile’s address book not to include those names who fall into those categorizes as above, especially for the last one. In addition, I made every precautious things needed just to make sure that those selected few would not be included as the recipients. And for this, forgive me Lord.  Sure, I do realize that the Ramadhan holy month and the Ied al Fitr are meant to be our training camp to self-teach ourselves on how to control us against our strongest enemy of all: ourselves. Our passions. Its negative implications. To learn how to forgive, and thus how to forget things and stuffs, and of course, people. To build a bridge that enables us to cross aboard the future life anew. A learning phase. An attempt to burn all those that have been passed. A chance to look at the man in the mirror.
Therefore, by celebrating the Victory day (= literally means “Ied al Fitr)” ourselves either obsessively or merely as the way it is, does it mean that everyone has won themselves? Have you asked yourself? Have you face the naked truth? Have you get the guts not just to admit it, but also to fire yourself that brutal inquiry? Have you been brave enough to learn it? Do you know the difference between the valiant and the cowards? Quoting Shakespeare; the valiant never tastes death but once, whilst the cowards die many times before their death.  From that small incident shared above, apparently, it should not be. Not everyone won, though everyone fight, most of them just to please others, to fulfill their obligation. To show to the world that they are following the rules as blindly injected by the authoritarian clerks posed as God Himself and as stated by the judging society claimed to be His rightful messengers. And neither those who holds their grudges.
Maybe I didn’t win, maybe I tried. But I am only human. It doesn’t matter. And I will be responsible for that. God does know. He forgives. I cannot. I'm starting with the man in the mirror. I'm asking him to change his ways. And no message could have been any clearer. If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself, and then make a CHANGE. PS: * Photo courtesy of TLT, Dec 31, 2006, and May 29, 2007 ** inspired by Goo goo Dolls’ Iris, ost City of Angels, and of what happened in mid 2006 *** Man in the Mirror, Michael Jackson; listened to the song whilst you read this **** I'm only human, of flesh and blood I'm made. Human, born to make mistakes..
by Human League
 | Category: | Books | | Genre: | Health, Mind & Body | | Author: | Greg Behrendt |
This book was all an eye-opener, I gave it a full 5-stars right from its first pages without hesitating. It is highly recommended.
The title may suggested that it was intended for girls only, but if you let your mind open, and ready to use that scalpel to bravely cut deep down into your very heart, than you’ll realized that it actually could universally be applied; either to girls or even boys. The ones out there whose keep asking themselves of “why?”, and worn their friends out with their never-ending questions.
Over a year ago, my dearly friend, Cecille, lend me the book when somewhat she got really concerned of me complaining this and that about it. Of my wish and daydreaming sighs had I done something different, would it be that matter? She simply said NO, and virtually of course, slapped me on the face. And said,
You’ve done enough, you know that I know from the very beginning, and I did know that you knew, too. Moreover, bear in mind that you also know that this is the truth: she’s just not that into you. I told you that thousands of time, and you didn’t listening. If she felt that it is okay for her to do things like these, then she’s not that precious for you.
Yeah, when men fall in love, he cannot think of everything else *grin
I know that it is very hard for you to know that your ex had found someone new, especially when it happened that soon. And I know that it is very disturbing that you are not really understand why that happened. Or whether it was happened after you broke up or had been initially before. Well, mind that suspicious thing from your brain, dear friends. Because it would be no use anymore. Yet try to see it from another perspective. Trust me.. When I look back to my past, I am smiling.. :-) Why? B'coz I learn from the past..
It's good that you've already can look back & smile, girl. I envy you, dear. In my case, well, of course she could that easily moved on, and found somebody else, because she was the one who took the step. Ah, never mind. It doesn’t feel that matters anymore.
Behrendt also said that it wouldn't matter, because nothing would stop someone from being with the one’s another half s/he's really into, and if there's a problem, s/he would maturely discuss it in order to stay with her/him, instead of just using lame excuses to leave.
According to the book, it happened because she lost all the romance even long before the judgement day. Thus when the verdict fired (ta’elaaa…!:p), maybe she felt sorry for us, perhaps also a little bit guilty; but the biggest thought that would ever came up to her mind was: “..relieved..”
I have noticed this on her, even right away at the devastating moment. Do you still remember that when those mighty words had been spoken, I instantly asked her to do self-evaluation and made personal review of what had been through, of the relationship? For my better or worse? I shall honour her decision, though. But one cant help when a final last cry wondered through my dizzy mind:
Is it the perfect one or JUST the perfect timing?
…………..
What is there to say when all the love
has slipped away in half a minute.
There is always something we can blame,
but in the end it's just the same -
Suddenly, you find yourself alone.
[Basia - Half a Minute]
Originally composed at
Thursday, Aug 31, 2006 - 8:09 AM
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Note:
* Parts of the article above was taken from a chat with my dearly friend, Cecille. The one who lend me the book, and dedicated her empathy. Appreciated her much.
.. keliatan banget kalo dia takut untuk keluar dari comfort zone-nya. Selain itu menurut saya, toleransinya terhadap stress keliatan rendah.. 
Ummm.. jadi bertanya-tanya, jangan-jangan apa yang diomongin seorang teman gue di atas itu ada benarnya. Maksud gue, jangan-jangan tuduhan itu juga berlaku buat diri gue sendiri. Apa iya gue sendiri udah terlalu terpaku pada comfort zone gue? My lunch date today which also happened to be one of my dearest friend, wondered in such degree of amazement when she heard about what I did on Mid Plaza II earlier in the morning. Why? With a good reason, of course. Because she thought that I don’t want to come out from that comfort zone of mine myself. Oh, another thing; SZ, my latest ex, also came to the same conclusion once - and as a matter of fact, it's one of the reason why she dumped me. Ouch. But with what I did just today, it could be considered that I'm courageous enough to take the challenge. Even though I think, and quoting Sinatra’s My Way, it's a bit more than I could chew, heuheheh.. What previously had been happened or worst, prejudiced, as noted above; were perhaps due to some kind of misperceptions or judgemental thinking. It’s good that my dear friend could directly confront me with it, and vice versa, of course. Well, we'll just wait and see, I guess. Because you’ll never know unless you try.. © terbanglah lebih tinggi Jakarta Blitz Megaplex, Grand Indonesia Mall Monday, Jul 9, 2007 – 13.30 wib * Open Up, Open Up Is the refrain part of the Nescafé TV’s ads aired for worldwide viewers. I really love the song, the way they performed it, and the message delivered: To open up ourselves to all possibilities and, of course, chances. * Photo courtesy of Nescafé
© terbanglah lebih tinggi  At moment like this I was supposed to stay calm and do what they told me to do: to finish the test within the period given, to cooperatively working with the rest of the class and with the test supervisors of course, and sure to do what is expected from you – the best of it.
But near the end of the first phase of the test, my eyes were bumped to nearly a paragraph, and got stunned. And before could finally composed myself and helplessly pushed my grey cells to continue its way in finding the best solution of the problems or skipped it over to the next pages, my overall attention soon gluely attracted to it. It was a section of what the writer regarded as “an American virtue”, and it read like this: ….that courage is worth the effort and will be admired, that hard work would go unnoticed and will be rewarded, that life is somehow good and that, despite the weariness boredom and occasional ugliness, despite all their dislike of most of their daily routine and despite their own occasional grossly and complaints, they somehow did like being what they become. that life, even in a chaotic and violent world, is worth it after all… What a line, what a line! It slaps me up right on the face, woke me up from the parallelizing fears that tied my willingness up. And it gives me reasons to believe in, even though it’s still as far away as the horizon of the next dawn yet to come. Soon afterward I humbly realized that merely than just a virtue of the American world, those magnificent lines of personal wisdom could, and should, be applied to all aspect of our day-to-day life, and to our whole contemporary world as we live it today – indeed. It is a virtue of a positive life. That it is worth to try; even though you’re not sure of what you can do, or what it would become. That you should do your best and nothing less despite what others say about you and despite what it would be resulted. And that, because you’ll never know unless you try. And then that last quote was considered as my quote of the (last) week. And I proudly say it out loud, and share it to one who cares – or maybe in need. Wishing you enough. Sampoerna Strategic Square, Tower B, 8th Fl., Jl Jenderal Sudirman, Jakarta Wed, Jun 20, 2007 – 15.00 wib PS: § related article could be read by clicking on the link provided § Photo courtesy of TLT. Caption: related brochures and booklets
oleh: terbanglah lebih tinggi
A friend whose currently pursuing his advanced degree on Petroleum Engineering aboard discussing an interesting topic on my company group-wide un-official mailing list (I served as one of its moderators). The discussion was kicked-off by another friend whose has forwarded an graphic anecdot about business attitude, titled “camel”. It was a good anecdot though, and could be interpreted in such several way; that we were interactively indulging ourselves in the following online discussion.
 “..Kalau kita bekerja dan ditempatkan di posisi yang tidak sesuai keinginan, minat dan bakat kita... itu bukan karena kita mempunyai negative thinking... Karena seharusnya untuk mendapatkan hasil yang optimal, orang yang punya minat dan keahlian di bidang tertentu ditempatkan di posisi yang tepat agar bisa memberikan keuntungan yang maksimal bagi perusahaan... Berbeda dengan mencari opportunity di perusahaan lain, karena ini bukan masalah suka atau tidak suka dengan posisi lama, tapi .. ada orientasi lain dibalik itu (Better Income, Gain New Experience etc).. hehe..”
Memang hal tersebut bukan disebabkan oleh faktor internal kita, tapi lebih kepada kebijakan penempatan (dan pengembangan) manajemen sumber daya manusia yang dilakukan pihak perusahaan. Dengan kata lain, faktor eksternal. And there's nothing we can do about it.
Tapi yang gue maksud sebenarnya bukan itu. Melainkan tentang siapapun di antara kita yang mungkin (merasa) ditempatkan pada posisi yang salah; lantas yang bersangkutan kemudian menjadi ngambek, mandeg, atau bahkan apatis. Menjadi beban suatu organisasi maupun sekitarnya. Sedangkan alangkah bagusnya bila kita bisa "making the most of it" pada posisi maupun tanggung jawab apapun yang dibebankan kepada kita. Atau, yang dipercayakan kepada kita. Apapun itu bentuknya.
Happiness is just a mind set! There it goes with anything we do – as a matter of fact; everything. It’s just all about your own private mind set, and nothing in the whole world can change it but you. You and you only who can make the most of it. Think in a more positive way, whatever dark your situation might be. I believe that there’s silver lightning behind every dark cloud. You should believe it, too. You only have to take a deep breath, and change your approach to the problem; your previous way of thinking.
Be a professional! Love your job... Sepanjang kita masih mau dan/atau mampu bertahan di posisi itu; then do your best, and nothing less. Lain soal bila kita memang sudah nggak mau lagi dengan alasan apapun; entah ketidaksanggupan atau kurangnya minat. Solusinya tentu hanyalah dengan cara meminta dipindahkan, atau bahkan lebih ekstrim lagi, "memindahkan" diri sendiri alias cabs, hehe..
“…I'll do my best and nothing less
so come on baby make your request..”
BVSMP
“Anytime”
Jakarta 12870 Pancoran
Rabu, 28 Feb 2007 – 13.22 wib
Photo was taken on board,
in the middle of South China Sea
On Christmast Day, 2005
 TLT’s note:
A good friend sent me this following listing on how to achieve success on everything you do. An interesting article, I must say. More intriguing point of it, is the way they put its No.1 point – as a must have! *wink2!:p (hints: read it and you’ll understand why) So may I defend myself that I still eligible in pursuing happyness since I havent have that suitable significant others of mine, yet? *grin
Jakarta 12870 Pancoran
Tuesday, April 17, 2007 – 13.18 wib
Photo courtesy of TLT,
07 03 22 - 18.36 JKT 12870
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21 Suggestions for SUCCESS
by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
2. Work at something you enjoy and that's worthy of your time and talent.
3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
6. Be generous.
7. Have a grateful heart.
8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.
9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.
12. Commit yourself to quality.
13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
14. Be loyal.
15. Be honest.
16. Be a self-starter.
17. Be decisive even if it means you'll sometimes be wrong.
18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did.
20. Take good care of those you love.
21. Don't do anything that wouldn't make your Mom proud.
oleh: terbanglah lebih tinggi
Love ain't about loss or gain
Love is not about one's way or another
Love shouldn't be about who say the last word
It's about patience, and understanding.
It's about the willingness to let go the individualist you,
It's about welcoming the colorful rainbow but grey.
It's all about time...
Jakarta 14130 Cilincing
Wednesday, May 2, 2007 - 03.25 am
Working on the report to be submitted 1st thing in the morning
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To reply to some poor souls, and SZ; who are/were reminiscingly looking back to the days when they were single and happy; and painly wondering why their shitty relationship could give them such a headache, and missing all the initial fun of the feeling of a thousand butterflies dancing on their stomach..
It’s not gone, it’s just change – my fellow humans. Into something that more subtle than it was. Into anything that would build a stronger structure and would glue the connected hearts. Into everything that will change you, forever.
Will you be strong enough to endure it? Will you be tough to hold on to it? It’d never be easy. We all know it anyway. It’s part of the fun of course. It’s part of the ride, for sure.
Photo courtesy of TLT
Lapangan Banteng, 2006 07 06 19.11
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Two strangers amid the masses of Jakarta, the countless another attractive public spots, the great number of some other events happened on that day, the very second that lead into each other dreams, and forever would be framed into something truly illogical called as destiny; our paths collide in the mad last night of the long weekend rush as we felt a mutual attraction. And people still couldn’t believe how we met. God’s will; left humble humans beg for the answer, sometimes even crawling for it, and the others would eagerly dying to try. How we are supposed to know what it is. What is it? You just face the music, and let the blood turns your face into red, or give in to the adrenalin force to pump your heart even faster, perhaps also cracking your voice with anxiety, and your palm suddenly felt cold – and sweaty. How could it be? A complicated net of series of younghood life crisis, through all its ups and downs, happiness and sorrows, that beautifully makes our life as the way it is – that couldn’t and wouldn’t be traded into another. Treasured forever into immortality, formed as your personal photo album. The precious one. Carefully kept, and sometimes may we glanced back into it as our previous life framed eternally. Reminiscingly silent, thoughtfully smiling – of the fond memories, such a distance away. Life.., what else to be blamed but fate, to take control of their future? Of our very own. Of yours. And if they are really meant to be together, to be with each other – one tells another once upon a time; they will find their way back into one another's life. Definetely. Sooner or later. And vice versa, God speed; of course. But too much differences walked, but in love. On watching the movie with Bintang, being called out-of-the-blue several times almost all day long by Lintang, and as it hadn’t been quite enough, suddenly stumbled the way upon Gemintang (with her best friend devildiva and a man – who’s he?). Such a night. WHAT A NITE! How things could happened to you in just one nite? “..And you bleed just to know you’re alive..” *GoogooDolls, Iris Goddammit.
Jakarta, Pondok Indah Mall II Monday, Mar 19, 2007 – 21.32 wib /,sæ.rən.’dɪ.pə.ti/ : 1. Making discoveries, by accident and sagacity, of things not in quest of. 2. Discovering something by accident while investigating something quite different. For example, finding a biological culture “ruined” by mould, and discovering the antibiotic penicillin as a consequence. 3. A fortunate occurrence created by unanticipated luck. “Call it a mid-life crisis; call it divine intervention or simply serendipity, but his employer, Matt Prentice, happened to know that at that moment over at the Scott Building there was a new kitchen just waiting for the right person to run it.” —Detroit News, October 7, 2005 Related Link:
Serendipity Part Deux
oleh: terbanglah lebih tinggi Sehabis rapat tadi pagi, sementara para VP dan BOD masih berdebat informal; seorang teman senior, pria muda (si A) tiba2 mengeluarkan Nokia N73 Music Edition dari sakunya. HP tersebut jelas2 masih sangat baru; kinclong and it’s a sexy black! TLT: “Bagus ya. Memori nya gede, lagi. Nambah harganya nggak banyak kan?” A : “(bangga karena HP baru nya dipuji). Memori nambah jadi sekian GB, plus dapat colokan audio stereo.” B : “Lumayan banget buat ndengerin mp3!” A : “Iya. Warnanya hitam, pula.” TLT: Emangnya lo suka warna hitam? A : Nggak juga. Tapi hitam itu kan “cowok banget” Lagian masa mau pake warna pink atau pastel, gitu? Kaya cewek aja TLT: …….. (unagreed, yet speechless) B : “TLT, Sony Ericsson m600i lo juga bukannya hitam? Cowok banget kan!” Perhatian teralih beberapa saat karena para Bos ngambek minta diperhatikan (*halah!). Kemudian percakapan nggak penting ini berlanjut. TLT: “Yang di pinggang lo itu apa? PDA cdma? Motorola, ya?” A : “Nggak, ini kan PDA gsm.” TLT: (berusaha mikir kenapa ada orang pake 2 nomer gsm sekaligus nyala dua2nya) “Oh, yg Nokia pake satelindo, yg PDA pake excelcom ya – biar murah telp2an sama istri lo?” A : “Nggak, dua2nya satelindo gsm” B : “Ribet amat, kaya’ cewek aja..” Semua tertawa. Setelah rapat yang menegangkan dengan aparat, sungguh suatu percakapan yang menyenangkan, bukan? Dan menghibur. Buktinya, semua tertawa. Semua bangga atas pilihan warna yang menegaskan eksistensi kelelakian mereka. Ekspresi kejantanan, kata orang. Tak ada yang sadar atas keberadaan sebuah absurditas telanjang yang disodorkan oleh kenyataan pemuda “A”; ambiguitas dan inkonsistensi pilihan antara pernyataan pertama bahwa warna hitam adalah jantan, versus ketidakpraktisan pada pernyataan berikutnya sebagai sesuatu hal yang kewanitaan. Aneh? Ah, siapa bilang. Buktinya semua tertawa. Kebenaran mayoritas. Tapi apa iya; jenis kelamin ditentukan oleh pilihan warna, atau pilihan sikap yang praktis versus yang ribet? Atau tingkat kebawelan? Atau apakah elo seorang yang sensitif dan berempati atau tidak? Atau gimana cara elo menyetir mobil/motor? Atau mungkin cara kita melangkahkan kaki? Bagaimana dengan operasi penggantian kelamin yang mahal dan kontroversial itu? Bagaimana dengan mereka yang sudah “menyimpang” secara fisik sejak lahir (baca: banci, bences, waria), atau mereka yang menyimpang secara mental psikologis akibat pengaruh lingkungan? (baca: kemayu, tomboy, maskulin, feminim, etc), maupun mereka yang mengalami gejala homosexualitas? Sebenarnya tanpa kita sadari, banyak hal berupa “mitos”, yang diterima dan dipercaya sebagai suatu kebenaran yang bersifat umum – dan mengikat, tentunya. Seorang teman lama yang entah mengapa selalu menjalani rute kehidupan yang sama dengan gue semenjak masa kuliah, PwC, dan akhirnya menjadi salah satu kolega di kantor sekarang, pernah dengan yakinnya mendakwa; C : “You are totally weird, TLT. Some say unique, but for me – it’s weird.” TLT: “(stay calm) Can you explain me, why?” C : “You love to discuss, alright. Anywhere, anytime, anyone; doesn’t matter. And maybe you’re correct, sometimes. Or maybe you’re not.” TLT: “And what’s wrong with that? I just mind challenging myself.” C : “Nothing’s wrong. Except that it makes you the only one whose keep argueing against the already established and/or achieved consensus about “X”, when everybody else has given up and say “Y”. Or even agreed to “Z”.” TLT: “Not getting it. Go on.” C : “You see, when there’s 1 person truth, against 100 person wrongfulness, that 1 person truth wouldn’t be accepted as ‘the truth” anymore. The balance should be automatically changed as 1 person wrongfulness against 100 person truth. You and your values would be socially challenged! And you shall lost. Painfully. Totally.” TLT: “Yep! Got your point, dude. Thanks. But it’s just me. And no way that I gonna be change the way I am just to please somebody else. Especially if I believe that I am right, and you are wrong.” C : “Don’t you remember how it was went through when you run for your Student Council Presidential campaign? Wanna see it happened again?” TLT: “Well…, I guess life is a matter of choices anyway. Take your chances, and committed to it.” Sungguh suatu pernyataan yang berani, menarik, tapi menggelisahkan. Untuk 1 orang kebenaran melawan 100 orang salah; maka secara hukum sosial, kesalahan 100 orang tersebut akan diterima menjadi 100 kebenaran – mengikat dan mendakwa. Menghujat dan menghakimi. Kebenaran relatif (yang besar jumlahnya) melawan kebenaran absolut (yang sedikit dan ditakdirkan untuk kalah). Pernahkah lo berkata pada rekan2 atau keluarga lo kalimat seperti ini (atau variasinya), “..restoran yang di sana lebih ramai, pasti makanan nya enak. Ayo kita makan di sana..” Sebagian besar dari kita pasti pernah berkata seperti itu, dan yakinlah bahwa pada saat itu elo telah berubah menjadi kesalahan 100 orang yang menggilas. Persepsi yang berbicara! Apa yang benar menurut khayalak luas, akan menafikan kebenaran sesungguhnya yang kesepian. Kebenaran mayoritas yang membentuk persepsi melawan kesalahan minoritas yang tak tersuarakan. Dan kita menerimanya begitu saja, hanya membebek terhadapnya. Demi keselamatan dan kenyamanan pribadi. Ataukah demi kebenaran? NANS yang peneliti profesional sosiologi dan kandidat PhD pernah menulis sebuah artikel yang sangat menarik mengenai predikat sosial: “Melajang, Gugatan atas Nasib Perempuan” (untuk membaca, klik langsung pada judul tersebut). Dalam salah satu dari banyak malam penuh diskusi kami, dia juga pernah menyatakan bahwa sesungguhnya, “..hukuman terberat di Indonesia sebenarnya bukanlah keputusan pengadilan, hukuman kantor, penalti sekolah, atau apapun – melainkan hukuman sosial..” Terhadap ketidaksetujuan gue, dia menjawab bahwa segala jenis hukuman lain masih bisa diperjuangkan validitasnya, atau bahkan legalitasnya. Dan bilapun tidak, mereka masih memiliki batas akhir – cepat atau lambat akan tercapai. Lain dengan hukuman sosial yang berlaku seumur hidup, bahkan hingga ke anak cucu. Contoh; stigma pada keluarga anggota PKI. Dia benar, tentu saja (with my deepest admiration). And now, dear friends, apakah kau akan menyakini kebenaran 1 orang yang penuh perjuangan tanpa henti, ataukah kau akan menjalani kesalahan 100 orang yang dengan tenang dan nyaman akan menjadi kebenaran yang diterima semua orang? Hanya suatu pilihan jua yang tersisa. Some people live for the fortune, some people live just for the fame Some people live for the power, some people live just to play the game Some people think that the physical things, define what's within… And I've been there before. But that life's a bore, so full of the superficial *Alicia Keys Jakarta 12870 Pancoran Thursday, Jan 18, 2007 – 20.52 wib Pikiran nan melayang lena bersama rintik yang jatuh, dan deadline laporan rapat pagi tadi yang meresahkan. Disclaimer: § Percakapan2 tersebut di atas sebenarnya terjadi dengan cukup banyak pihak. Untuk mempermudah ilustrasi yang dibutuhkan, beberapa adegan digabungkan menjadi satu, tanpa mengurangi maupun menambah artinya.
Just tried the Book Quiz, that arguably, explain the true me. Pretty interesting, actually.
Got this link from here. Why dont you try it yourself, and see what you are?
Because you'll never know ..unless you try... *grin
You're Siddhartha!
by Hermann Hesse
You simply don't know what to believe, but you're willing to try anything once. Western values, Eastern values, hedonism and minimalism, you've spent some time in every camp. But you still don't have any idea what camp you belong in. This makes you an individualist of the highest order, but also really lonely. It's time to chill out under a tree. And realize that at least you believe in ferries.
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